It is easy to blame outside circumstances or other people as the cause of our challenges and difficulties in life. Feeling like a victim is something most of have done at one time or another in our lives.
When it is something outside ourselves that has caused what we are unhappy about we do not want to look at our part in it. A friend of mine used to tell me that I was not a victim but a volunteer in life. I immediately reacted – “But what about this or that, the economy, the loss of a loved one, etc.”
She explained to me that I always had a choice of how I reacted and what I did regarding the event. IF we look at the Depression in the 30’s, there were many people who, in despair, jumped from windows but there were, also, other people who, although they, too, were in the midst of this sad time, rose above it because they refused to let it rob them of even more than their money or livelihood.
To understand that I have a part in my life and how it is unfolding, means that I have to look honestly at myself and the role I played, either by what I did, said, or where my consciousness was.
This is never a fun or easy job but it is necessary if we want to have a happy, joyful and inspired life. Like Eric Butterworth said, “your fortune begins with you” (as does your happiness, health, and relationships.) It is time to stop blaming and start changing our thinking and how we look at everything so we can move forward to have the life we want.
Quote of the Week
“Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens”. Carl Jung