I was talking to someone the other day and we both agreed, that as difficult as it is to walk through a challenge physically, i.e., physical discomfort, zip line, sky diving, running a marathon, etc.; it is even more difficult to walk through a challenging emotional situation, especially when it involves placing ourselves in a position of humility, openness, and vulnerable.
It made me wonder why fear of emotional and mental pain is often greater than fear of physical pain? There is much written about this topic (so obviously this idea of mine was not new or original).
For me, emotional pain is so upsetting that I will use physical pain as a distraction. For example, when my life was unraveling I realized that running helped me. However, it was not just running, but running till every cell of my body ached with pain. I, also, saw it when I was working with someone, years ago, who had the habit of cutting herself as a way to not have to deal with her emotional upset.
Therefore, I try to do things that force me to stretch past my comfort zone; do something new that is an emotional stretch – like reaching out to others, such as a dirty, homeless person, even when I don’t want to.
We cannot grow in our development without taking the leap. Try it. Do something you do not want to do, especially if it involves other people. You might be amazed at the results!
Quote of the Week
“I’d rather be physically hurt than emotionally. Because you can put a Band-Aid on your finger, but you can’t put one on your heart.”