Going through Difficult Times

I received a call the other day from a friend in Miami who I had not heard from in over 15 years.  Her husband of 17 years had told her that he wanted a divorce and she was devastated.  It’s always hard to comfort someone who has lost someone they love and their life is about to change in ways that are unknown and so scary.

It feels like life is over and her question to me was how she could survive it.  I am not a therapist but I am in recovery and the lessons I have learned from it, I believe, can help anyone.  

The primary lesson is that we have to keep moving.  We need to take one step after another, get up when we want to stay in bed, do the next thing in front of us even if its as simple as taking a shower and brushing our teeth.  I told her that the way we get through any difficulty is one step, one minute, one day at a time and to remember that we are not going through it alone.

I believe God is always with us – including during the times we feel so lost that it seems we have been abandoned.  I can look back at all the times in my life that I felt I could not go on – when just breathing was a challenge.  How did I do it, taking it one baby step at a time, taking action (any positive action), reaching out to be of service to another, and to remember that God was with me through it all.

Life happens – sometimes it is not as we had planned or as we would like, but I do know that it was through the challenges in my life that I grew spiritually and emotionally the most. It was also those times in which I grew closer to my Higher Power and learned that its not enough to have faith – we also must trust that “God will not take us where God’s grace will not keep us.”

Quote of the Week

“I do believe that when we face challenges in life that are far beyond our own power, it’s an opportunity to build on our faith, inner strength, and courage.  I’ve learned that how we face challenges plays a big role in the outcome of them.”

Sasha Azevedo

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The Masks We Wear

Tomorrow is Halloween – a time when people put on costumes and masks to become someone different, even if it is only for one day.  I love dressing up in costume because it allows me to be whoever and whatever I want to be for that day.

The truth, however, is that with or without a mask, we always have that choice.  We are not bound by what our parents, teachers and other adults may have told us.  As children of God we can become whatever we believe is possible. 

It is easy to be discouraged by people around us that are filled with fear and to allow that fear to become contagious.  Instead, let us know that we live and breathe and have our being in an Infinite Universe that is always providing for us when we are open to see the possibilities around us.

We do not need a mask to be brave to claim the good that God has in store for us. We just need faith and trust that we are never alone and, therefore, have nothing to fear.

Happy Halloween!

Quote of the Week

“If you want people to love you for who you are, take the mask off.”

Unknown

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The Power of our Beliefs

One of Webster’s definition of the word belief is “something that is accepted, considered to be true, or held as an opinion.”   Most of the beliefs we hold about ourselves and the world we live in are based on things we were told as children which we accepted and considered to be true.  We then take these beliefs and make them part of our DNA.

For example, maybe you were taught to believe that the world we live in is a dangerous place and to save yourself, you cannot trust anyone or anything.

As a result, you live your life in fear, believing that the world is out to get you and unable to have close, loving relationships.  You keep people at a distance as to protect yourself, then wonder why you have few friends.

Our fears become the terrorists that hold us hostage and keep us from the freedom to truly become all that we were created to be.  When we see people as distant and untrustworthy, that is what we get.  When we see people as friendly and kind, we find people who are both and even more.

But how do we change these beliefs?  We can begin by training our minds to think and therefore believe differently.  Begin to affirm that wherever you go, people are always seeking friendship with me.  Then begin gaining evidence that this true because I am always meeting people who are kind, loving and friendly

Try this on whatever beliefs are keeping you from the life you want and the person you want to be.

Quote of the Week

“You begin to fly when you let go of self-limiting beliefs and allow you mind and aspirations to rise to greater heights.”

Brian Tracy

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Beginning of Change

October… and no matter what the temperature is, people begin to feel the change in the air as we move out of summer and into fall.  Pumpkins are everywhere, Halloween stores are popping up in empty spaces in almost every shopping area, and Christmas is beginning to pop its head up in stores as well. Sweaters and boots are seen regardless of whether the weather warrants them or not.

Yes, Autumn is here, and change is everywhere from Mother Nature to High Fashion.  For me, Autumn is a time of change – maybe even more so than other seasons.  This change, like all changes, is either positive, negative, or just different – depending on our mindset.  

Like fall coming while temperatures are still high, changes in ourselves often come in quiet, subdued ways – so that if we are not conscious, we may not see it.  It often comes as a discontent, a restlessness, or just a feeling that something is happening and yet we know not what.  

We are often unaware of these changes because change can be subtle, yet scary and if we ignore it, we think it will go away.  From experience I have discovered that denial does not work for very long. When change is God directed, I can either pay attention to the still small voice or wait until God gets my attention in a big way. 

A long time ago, I made the decision to turn my will and my life over to Spirit.  

Since then life has never been dull or boring and often takes me on a road less traveled. Change is less scary when we remember that life is an adventure and God is our guide.

Quote of the Week

“God’s will will not take me, where God’s grace will not keep me.’

Anonymous

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Perfectly Imperfect

I recently got a water bottle that says “Perfectly Imperfect”.  I bought it because I thought it was a great description of how I feel most of the time.  In fact, the one thing I am sure of is that I am not perfect, however, I do have a Higher Power that is Perfect, and I know that this Power can do through me what I cannot do for myself.

Being imperfect is actually a good thing, because it means I can still learn, still grow, still experience new things.  It means that even when life is messy, it’s ok because it’s an opportunity to not only see things as they are, but to see things as they can be.  

Being imperfect means I don’t have to add the extra stress in my life of having to have everything perfect – when I goof up, I can laugh and try again.  Accepting this imperfection is definitely a necessity especially as we age – because we soon learn we are far from perfect and, with wisdom, we know it is ok, and therefore, so are we.

Quote of the Week

“Have no fear of perfection – you’ll never reach it.”

Salvador Dali                                                   

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