The Answer to Fear

Fear – it can be our worse enemy.  Fear, especially the unfounded fear of almost everything, has a way of breeding more fear and keeping our good from us.

When I say fear I am not talking about the fear of a present danger – say someone holding a gun to your head.  That is known as spontaneous fear – the kind which is difficult to control and which passes when the danger is over.

No, the fear I am talking about is the kind of fear that is fabricated in the sense that is something we should have control over and yet we don’t.  Examples are fears that something bad is going happen such as fear of getting old, fear of failure, fear of being alone, fear of being sick, etc. even when there is no indication that which we fear will happen.

 I had a friend recently who was driving to visit another friend she had not seen in a long time. The joy of seeing her friend was lost because she had so much fear that her car would not be able to make it.  You might be thinking, ‘I’d be afraid to if I had an old car” but her car was only a year old, in great shape and there was no reason it would not make it. 

No matter what we fear, the answer is the same – God.  When we live with the attitude that “God has got my back” our fears disappear and we find the courage to explore new avenues of opportunity and growth.


“Fears are nothing more than a state of mind.” 

Napoleon Hill


Through Life’s Storms

Summer is here, things are slowly coming back to a new normal – but for many who live in certain parts of the country, it can also bring storms, tornados, and fires that challenge us to our very core.

What can we do when life hands us situations which try our patience and test our faith?  We can let it take over our whole being, or we can do the things that lift our spirit and strengthen our faith.  What are those things?

For each of us, they are different.  The important thing is that we have an arsenal of things to do that lift our spirit and help us through the challenges of life.  For me they include listening to music that uplifts my being, being outside, being near the ocean, and connecting with people who love and support me. Having people who help us remember to find gratitude in whatever, to remember we are not alone because God is always within us and It is good.  

Having such an arsenal may not keep the storms from coming, but they will give us the resilience to weather them and come out with deeper faith and a stronger spirit.

Quote of the Week

Resilience is accepting your new reality, even if it’s less good than the one you had before. You can fight it, you can do nothing but scream about what you’ve lost, or you can accept that and try to put together something that’s good.” 

Elizabeth Edwards


The Freedom to Be

I hope everyone had a fun and safe 4th of July celebration and remembered why they were celebrating.

In a country in which we pride ourselves on our freedom, we don’t take much time to be grateful for it.  Maybe its because although we have political freedom many of us do not feel very free.

We often feel trapped in a life that we got by default not by choice.  Years ago I lived a life my parents wanted for me, not one I wanted.  I tried to live that life for awhile but eventually, I felt I had to break free and I did.  That break caused much pain and harm to many, including myself.

I could have saved all that damage by doing something as simple as to “thine oneself be true”.  I do not regret the whole thing because I received many lessons from it and today I am reaping the benefits from those lessons.

Today I live a life that feels like it is more true to who I am and who God created me to be.  Today I feel free – not just physically but mentally, emotionally, and spiritually as well. 

Are you truly free?  If not, what is holding you back? Maybe it is time to break out of the shackles of the past and experience true freedom.

Quote of the Week

“Ever since the dawn of civilization, the entire search of the human mind has been to get free from evil, from bondage, and the shackles of lack, want, fear, superstition, uncertainty, pain, disease, poverty, and fear of the hereafter.”

Ernest Holmes


The Key to Happiness and Peace

Forgiveness – a topic that I discuss often because it is so important.  It is also one that we may sometimes be unaware that is a serious issue for us.  We are all aware of the people or things that get us angry, but it is often the unforgiveness of people, places, institutions, or ourselves that we hang onto which becomes problematic.

The parents that did not treat us lovingly and the kind that we just can’t seem to forgive.  Or maybe it’s an ex-spouse that hurt us so deeply, we continue to carry the hurt into our current lives. These kinds of instances of unforgiveness are the real challenges because we often bury them so deep, we do not realize we are still carrying these feelings around.

Maybe we don’t want to let it go because we think that if we forgive, we are condoning what was done. Forgiveness is not condoning.  It is forgiving the person but not the act.  This is not as easy as it sounds, and it takes a lot of spiritual work.  Forgiving others and ourselves sets us free to become all that we are meant to be.

Therapy is good, but nothing can heal the deep wounds within our hearts like spiritual work.  Often it takes the guidance of a spiritual mentor, guru, sponsor, minister, or rabbi.  It is not easy, but the rewards are a peace that passes all understanding, a happiness that can produce gratitude even in troubling times, and an ability to truly love our fellow humans.

It is worth the effort – I promise!

Quote of the Week

“To err is human; to forgive, divine.”

Alexander Pope


Where is your faith?

Faith – we all have it, the question is not if we have it, but what do we have faith in?

We have faith on different levels and in different ways and in various things.  We have faith that when we turn on our light switch the light will come on.  If it doesn’t we are upset, because it was something you had faith would happen and when it doesn’t we are disappointed.

However, there are different kinds of faith.  True faith is the inner knowing deep inside of yourself that the good you desire is already yours.  According to the Jafolla’s in The Quest, “True spiritual faith is complete trust in God’s will.”

The words of importance in that statement, are “complete trust”.  If we have faith but do not trust that God’s will for us is for our highest good, faith becomes more of an intellectual thing than an inner knowing that can stand the test of whatever life brings our way.

When we know that God is “large and in charge” we can handle whatever life brings our way.  It does not mean we might not cry, scream or doubt at any moment but that is always overshadowed by the deep belief that “God has got our back”.

Where is your consciousness?  That is where your faith lies.  If it is not where you want it to be, you can raise your consciousness through prayer, meditation, books, music – whatever works so your consciousness becomes open to achieve whatever it is you have conceived.

Quote of the Week

“Thy faith hath made thee whole”. Mt. 9:22 KJV