Rev. Arlene’s Blog

Rev. Arlene Meyer, our Minister, posts mid-week messages on this blog. Come back often to read her inspiring and thought-provoking posts. Learn more about her.

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From Rev. Arlene

Is there someone you will not or can not forgive?  Maybe it is someone from the past such as a parent, maybe an ex spouse, or maybe it is yourself.  We often think that by forgiving someone, they win and we lose.

The reality is that when we hold onto anger, resentment or grudges, the only one who loses is ourselves.  Not forgiving is a waste of energy, time, and brain power not to mention a detriment to our spirit.

I have met people who have suffered terrible things such as losing their child or been abused by their parents and yet they still were able to forgive.  All these people say the same thing, that they were the ones who suffered when they did not forgive and they were the ones who benefited when they did forgive.

In some cases, holding onto something can cause not only emotional and mental issues but physical as well.  We hold onto negative feelings to such an extent that we make ourselves physically ill.

Forgiveness is the key to our freedom.  Reading about it, talking about it, thinking about it, and knowing about it doesn’t do it.  Only by doing it do we benefit from it.

Simply say, “I forgive myself”.  Even if you don’t mean it, go ahead and do it anyway.  Say, “I forgive him/her”.  Even if you don’t mean it, go ahead and do it anyway.  Do it for two weeks and you will find that you will come to mean it and you will be free.

Quote of the Week

“Forgiveness is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”

Lewis B. Smedes

 

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From Rev. Arlene

Do you have zeal in your life or is it one boring, tiring day after another?  Zeal, or enthusiasm, is a God given attribute and although we all have it, some people do not exercise this power to it’s fullest ability.

Charles Fillmore, Unity’s co-founder, said a life without zeal is like “an engine without steam or an electric motor without a current.”  In our world today, we know that we have to charge up our phones, our IPads, our computers, etc. or they won’t work.  So too we have to charge up our lives so we have more zeal, more joy, and more enthusiasm.

Science has confirmed that every cell and organ of our body is literally crammed with vital energy.  When we have more zeal in our lives, our bodies respond not just with more energy but more vitality, good health and a strong immune system.

So how do we bring more zeal into our lives?  Every time an opportunity comes your way that allows you to express your talent, welcome that with open arms.  Every time you feel as if life is boring or has no meaning, find something to do for someone else.

Being of selfless service is a great way to bring more zeal and enthusiasm into your life because it gets us out of our selves and fills us with gratitude.

Look at everyday situations with a new perspective that zeal is an active power in your life.  Think of possibilities in various situations and then allow your imagination to soar.  Find ways to take the ideas that come to you and mold them into workable possibilities.

Quote of the Week

“I fairly sizzle with zeal and enthusiasm and spring forth to do that which should be done by me.”                            Charles Fillmore, age 94

 

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From Rev. Arlene

Are you willful or willing?

When we are willful we push and pull at life to make it go our way. Sometimes when we allow our self will to “run riot” it may seem for awhile that things are going well. However, at some point we may find that we have created a logjam in our lives and we become stuck. Stuck in old habits, old ways, old patterns of living. That is until the Universe breaks up the logjam, usually by blowing things up with Spiritual Dynamite.

When we are willing, willing to listen to our mentors, teachers, sponsors and more importantly, God, we find our life usually flows very well. That is because we are no longer allowing our egos (easing God out) to control what we do. We align ourselves to spiritual principles and not basing our lives on getting more, being more, or doing more.

It is the human will that creates wars, terrorism, violence and the slow destruction of our Earth. It is human will that makes us fight our way to the top in order to prove we are worthy. The Truth is we are worthy, we are important, we are beautiful because we are the creations of a Creator that is Perfect.

An apple tree can only produce apples, a pear tree – pears, and Perfection can only create perfection. Once we stop allowing our self will from going astray, we can then be in the flow of Good and truly become all we can be.

Quote of the Week

“For each one of us, there is only one thing necessary: to fulfill our own destiny, according to God’s will, to be what God wants us to be.” Thomas Merton

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From Rev. Arlene

What does understanding mean? Is it just the comprehension of facts and information about things or is it the ability to perceive, comprehend, and apprehend things beyond mere appearances?

We have spent so much of our existence seeing everything with our senses that we often miss a deeper awareness. For instance, we may love to talk so much that we do not hear and do not understand what someone else is saying. Often this results in poor communication and an inability to be open to new ideas.

The same is true in our meditation. We may have no problem talking to God about what we want or do not want, but we rarely just sit in the silence waiting for God to tell us what He wants us to do – or be. Thus, we lose out on gaining a deeper understanding of ourselves or the world around us.

In his book, Zen Mind, Beginner Mind, Shunryu Suzuki stated, “in the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities, in the expert’s mind there are few.” This statement, in the beginning of the book, speaks of the tendency for many of us to think that to understand Zen, (or for that matter anything), we have to have a lot of knowledge. I believe what Suzuki was trying to say, is that when we are learning something new, we have an attitude of openness, eagerness, and lack of preconceptions. As we learn more about the subject, we often begin to think we know everything and this attitude tends to bring with it a certain amount of prideful arrogance and aloofness, thereby distorting our perceptions.

We are all beginners on our spiritual journey because we should be constantly learning new things if we are open, while releasing any preconceptions of how things are. When we don’t think we know everything and take the time to listen to others, we have opportunities to learn new ideas and to see the world differently.

Quote of the Week

“Any fool can know. The point is to understand.” Albert Einstein

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From Rev. Arlene

Most of us have heard the expression, “An apple doesn’t fall very far from the tree”.  This can be a positive statement but it can also be a negative one, depending on our history.

However, unlike an apple, we have a choice.  We can remain stuck where we are because of our families, our education, our backgrounds, etc. or we can decide to move forward into a new way of thinking, a new attitude, new actions, and a new life.

The question we might ask ourselves on a regular basis is, “Am I stuck to my past?”  If the answer is yes, and we are not happy with the result, then we can move forward by thinking new thoughts and taking positive affirming steps in a new direction.

Like the poet William Ernest Henley said, “We are the master of our fate, the captain of our soul.”

Let us move from the shadow of victimhood into the realm of mastery.

 

Quote of the Week

“It is not in the stars to hold our destiny but in ourselves.”    William Shakespeare

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