Rev. Arlene’s Blog

Rev. Arlene Meyer, our Minister, posts mid-week messages on this blog. Come back often to read her inspiring and thought-provoking posts. Learn more about her.


The Importance of Belonging

Many years ago, the poet John Donner wrote, 

“No man is an island,
entire of itself,
every man is a piece of the continent,
a part of the main.”

It was true in John’s time and is still true today.  

We live in a world where everyone can be connected in a matter of seconds, yet so many people feel isolated and alone. 

As great as Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, cell phones, tablets, and computers are – they are no replacement for person-to-person relationships.  It does not matter whether we live alone or in a house filled with people – feeling connected has nothing to do with the number of people we see, but has everything to do with our commitment to being of service to others.

If you are not, I suggest finding a spiritual group, if not in one already, that you can be a part of, a place you can do service, a group that will support you not just in your times of need but will support you in your growth – personal and spiritual.

I have been blessed to be a part of two groups for the past 29 years – recovery and Unity. They have been a blessing and I get so much more than could fit on this page.

If you feel powerless, hopeless, lonely, or isolated, don’t stand on ceremony waiting for people to come to you – reach out your hand to others and become a part of something greater than yourself.

Quote of the Week

“Alone we can do so little; together, we can do so much.”

Helen Keller


How’s Your Heat Index?

Summer is here in Southern California and temperatures are higher and the humidity reminds me of FL and GA.  It seems that there is a direct correlation between higher heat numbers and lower amounts of patience, tolerance and kindness.

The one thing about the weather is that no matter how much one complains about it, it never changes.  In fact, it seems like the more the complaining, the worse it gets – or so it seems.  

The Truth however is that although it may seem that we live life from the outside in (what happens to us determines how we feel), in reality we live life from the inside out.  Our thoughts, beliefs, and actions determine our life. When we understand this truth, we stop blaming the weather, our medical condition, our age, our income, etc. and take responsibility for our thinking and our life.

When you wake up tomorrow, make the decision to have a great day, to see the beauty all around you, to smile at others, to be the person you were created to be.

Quote of the Week

“A bad attitude is like a flat tire. You can’t go very far with it with it.”



Pain in Progress

Have you ever noticed that things seem to get worse before they get better?  This is especially true when we are first introduced to a new way , of thinking, seeing  and being.

In Unity it is called chemicalization.  In the book, Lessons in Truth, Emily Cady compares it to putting soda into sour milk or other acid fluid.   When that is done, there is an agitation that takes place as one of the substances neutralizes the other the result of which is something better.

The same is true with a washing machine.  We put dirty clothes in and they become clean.  However, if all you did was fill it with water, add detergent, and then take them out they would not be very clean.  What cleans them is the agitation cycle and so it is with us.  It is the times of agitation that really help us to grow and become all that we were created to be.

So the next time you are going through a difficult time, things seem to be going all wrong – celebrate because your Higher Power is removing all the old stuff that is keeping you stuck so you can truly blossom into your true nature.

Quote of the Week
“Pain is the touchstone of spiritual progress.”  Bill Wilson



Do you appreciate the people in your life, the things you have, what has happened or not happened in your life?  What does it mean to appreciate something?  Is it the same as gratitude?  One definition “appreciate” is to be grateful or thankful for – so in that respect it is the same.  

However, there is a second definition and that one means “to value or regard highly”. The definition of gratitude says nothing about the value or regard we have for what we are grateful for.

So we may feel grateful say for our health but do we appreciate our bodies and how they function and provide for us a way of life?  We may feel gratitude for people in our life but sometimes we don’t take the time (until we no longer have it), to really appreciate them. 

This week, take time to appreciate all that you are grateful for in your life. 

Take time to appreciate a sunset, the home you live in, and most importantly the people in your life.

Quote of the Week

“People who uplift you are the best kind of people.  You don’t simply keep them.  You have to treasure them.”



Happy July 4th!

Happy July 4th!

Happy Freedom Day! Tomorrow is a day to remember, and appreciate, the freedom that we have in our country – but even more so, the freedom that we have as individuals.  

Not just free in the sense of politically or physically, but free to be all that we were created to be – if we choose to do so.  Ask yourself – am I free?  Free from fear, worry, discontent, and self-pity?  For some the answer might be no.

Usually the cause of this, is living our lives based on others expectations, or in reaction to others actions.  We have failed to take responsibility for building the life we want.

We work jobs that don’t satisfy us, relationships that don’t support us and activities that don’t nourish us.  We live in bondage to, not only what is done to us, but by our own limited thinking.

This July 4th, I challenge you to break out of the chains of bondage to find your authentic self and be free – free to be as God created you to be. Free to stop being a victim in life and understand that you are really a volunteer – that it is you who determines what you are volunteering for.

Quote of the Week

“Freedom in the oxygen of the soul.”                

Moshe Dayan