Rev. Arlene’s Blog

Rev. Arlene Meyer, our Minister, posts mid-week messages on this blog. Come back often to read her inspiring and thought-provoking posts. Learn more about her.


The Key to Happiness and Peace

Forgiveness – a topic that I discuss often because it is so important.  It is also one that we may sometimes be unaware that is a serious issue for us.  We are all aware of the people or things that get us angry, but it is often the unforgiveness of people, places, institutions, or ourselves that we hang onto which becomes problematic.

The parents that did not treat us lovingly and the kind that we just can’t seem to forgive.  Or maybe it’s an ex-spouse that hurt us so deeply, we continue to carry the hurt into our current lives. These kinds of instances of unforgiveness are the real challenges because we often bury them so deep, we do not realize we are still carrying these feelings around.

Maybe we don’t want to let it go because we think that if we forgive, we are condoning what was done. Forgiveness is not condoning.  It is forgiving the person but not the act.  This is not as easy as it sounds, and it takes a lot of spiritual work.  Forgiving others and ourselves sets us free to become all that we are meant to be.

Therapy is good, but nothing can heal the deep wounds within our hearts like spiritual work.  Often it takes the guidance of a spiritual mentor, guru, sponsor, minister, or rabbi.  It is not easy, but the rewards are a peace that passes all understanding, a happiness that can produce gratitude even in troubling times, and an ability to truly love our fellow humans.

It is worth the effort – I promise!

Quote of the Week

“To err is human; to forgive, divine.”

Alexander Pope


Where is your faith?

Faith – we all have it, the question is not if we have it, but what do we have faith in?

We have faith on different levels and in different ways and in various things.  We have faith that when we turn on our light switch the light will come on.  If it doesn’t we are upset, because it was something you had faith would happen and when it doesn’t we are disappointed.

However, there are different kinds of faith.  True faith is the inner knowing deep inside of yourself that the good you desire is already yours.  According to the Jafolla’s in The Quest, “True spiritual faith is complete trust in God’s will.”

The words of importance in that statement, are “complete trust”.  If we have faith but do not trust that God’s will for us is for our highest good, faith becomes more of an intellectual thing than an inner knowing that can stand the test of whatever life brings our way.

When we know that God is “large and in charge” we can handle whatever life brings our way.  It does not mean we might not cry, scream or doubt at any moment but that is always overshadowed by the deep belief that “God has got our back”.

Where is your consciousness?  That is where your faith lies.  If it is not where you want it to be, you can raise your consciousness through prayer, meditation, books, music – whatever works so your consciousness becomes open to achieve whatever it is you have conceived.

Quote of the Week

“Thy faith hath made thee whole”. Mt. 9:22 KJV


Light in the midst of the storm

There is a saying, “If you want to make God laugh, tell It your plans.”

No matter how much we may plan, organize, and prepare for something, often the Universe has other ideas in store for us.  When that happens – complaining, screaming, or fighting – it does not change things.

When that happens the only thing to do is to accept and surrender.  But often instead, we try to fight against what is, which is in reality the worse thing we can do.  Instead, the best thing to do is accept it, release our attachment to how we thought things should be, and then move forward – even if it is one tiny step in front of the other.

That doesn’t mean that there isn’t a time that we might think – why me?  Or that the Universe is “out to get us”.  The only thing that can change those negative thoughts, is for us to remember that no matter how things look, God is Good, and is on our side.  

One of my favorite mantras is, “God’s got my back.” Another favorite is ‘God’s Will will not take me, where God’s Grace will not keep me.”

I suggest having something – a mantra, a prayer, a song.  If you don’t have one, get one!  Because if you live long enough, the time will come, that it will come in handy. It can be the factor that will determine how you walk through the storms of life that blow your way.

Quote of the Week

“We must accept finite disappointment, but we must never lose infinite hope”.

Martin Luther King, Jr.


The Power of Two or More

Have you ever been part of a group that allowed you to accomplish more than you were capable of on your own?  Maybe it was a team sport, a 12 step program, a class project, etc.

I used to run and it never ceased to amaze me how I could always run further and faster when I was in a race (with a group) than I could on my own. In training for a marathon, it is advised that to run the 26 miles you only need to run 21 or so in training.  The reason – in a group there is an energy, a power that is greater than we have on our own.

This is true with our spiritual lives as well.  Anyone who has ever meditated in a group can tell you that there is an energy, a force, a power that is greater than any we can tap into on our own.  When we know this, we can use it to accomplish much more than we can individually.

It can be used by a group to attain seemingly impossible goals (think the 1980 US Olympic Hockey team) and it can be used when we ask another person to pray and affirm with us what it is we are needing at any time in our life.

Do you have a prayer partner, a meditation group, or a support group in your life?  If not, you are missing a powerful spiritual tool for you to use in good times and not such good times.

Don’t delay, you will not regret it

Quote of the Week

“Again, I tell you truly that if two of you on the earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by My Father in heaven.  For where two or three gather together in my name, there am I with them.”        Matthew 18:19-20


The Power of Words

Words are powerful and can bring Love, compassion, and goodness; but words can also cause great harm and pain – not just to others but ourselves as well.

Unfortunately, we usually do not think of words as having such power and we use our words carelessly.  This is probably truer with the words we say about ourselves than the words we say to others.

Two of the most powerful words in our vocabulary, is “I am”.  Why are they so powerful? When Moses asked God who are you?  God replied, “I Am”.  Moses, in turn, told the Israelites that God was to be referred to as “I Am”.   Jesus understood the power of these words and when he used them, he was referring to the God that was within him, such as, “I am the light of the world”. 

So when we say something like, “I am so tired” we are really saying that God within me is tired.  How can that which is All Power, ever be tired.  We may feel tired, but the God within me is never tired.  Instead of saying. “I am too old”, try saying ”right now I feel old”.  The God within you is not old because God is timeless and ageless. 

Words have tremendous power, and we create our life by the words we speak. So, use your words with care and see how your life can change for the better.  When we say something and then realize it is a negative statement, quickly say, “cancel, cancel” to release the negativity and then replace the words with a positive affirmation.

It works, it really does. Try it for even a day and see how you feel.

Quote of the Week

“Words are free. It’s how you use them that may cost you.”