Rev. Arlene’s Blog

Rev. Arlene Meyer, our Minister, posts mid-week messages on this blog. Come back often to read her inspiring and thought-provoking posts. Learn more about her.


Beginning of Change

October… and no matter what the temperature is, people begin to feel the change in the air as we move out of summer and into fall.  Pumpkins are everywhere, Halloween stores are popping up in empty spaces in almost every shopping area, and Christmas is beginning to pop its head up in stores as well. Sweaters and boots are seen regardless of whether the weather warrants them or not.

Yes, Autumn is here, and change is everywhere from Mother Nature to High Fashion.  For me, Autumn is a time of change – maybe even more so than other seasons.  This change, like all changes, is either positive, negative, or just different – depending on our mindset.  

Like fall coming while temperatures are still high, changes in ourselves often come in quiet, subdued ways – so that if we are not conscious, we may not see it.  It often comes as a discontent, a restlessness, or just a feeling that something is happening and yet we know not what.  

We are often unaware of these changes because change can be subtle, yet scary and if we ignore it, we think it will go away.  From experience I have discovered that denial does not work for very long. When change is God directed, I can either pay attention to the still small voice or wait until God gets my attention in a big way. 

A long time ago, I made the decision to turn my will and my life over to Spirit.  

Since then life has never been dull or boring and often takes me on a road less traveled. Change is less scary when we remember that life is an adventure and God is our guide.

Quote of the Week

“God’s will will not take me, where God’s grace will not keep me.’



Perfectly Imperfect

I recently got a water bottle that says “Perfectly Imperfect”.  I bought it because I thought it was a great description of how I feel most of the time.  In fact, the one thing I am sure of is that I am not perfect, however, I do have a Higher Power that is Perfect, and I know that this Power can do through me what I cannot do for myself.

Being imperfect is actually a good thing, because it means I can still learn, still grow, still experience new things.  It means that even when life is messy, it’s ok because it’s an opportunity to not only see things as they are, but to see things as they can be.  

Being imperfect means I don’t have to add the extra stress in my life of having to have everything perfect – when I goof up, I can laugh and try again.  Accepting this imperfection is definitely a necessity especially as we age – because we soon learn we are far from perfect and, with wisdom, we know it is ok, and therefore, so are we.

Quote of the Week

“Have no fear of perfection – you’ll never reach it.”

Salvador Dali                                                   



God is often referred to as Father or Mother but those terms can be difficult for some people, especially if they did not come from a home filled with Love.  Although I had a good home I never have been able to think of God as Father or Mother that easily, but I can wrap my heart and head around, “God is my friend”.

Most people have or have had a best friend (or if not, an imaginary one). When we think of the qualities we seek in a friend – loyalty, dependability, supporting, confidence/confiding, loving, empathetic, compassionate, truthful, and trustworthy – we also can think of those qualities as God.  If we think of God as our friend, we will have no fear in turning to it when things are at a low or at a high.  A good friend does not care about what we look like or what we have – he/she just cares about “us” – as a person.

Long ago I was taught to think of God as my friend and in doing so, it has enabled me to trust God because I know It is my friend as I am It’s friend. It is so good to know that I am a friend of God!!!

Quote of the Week

“It doesn’t matter how many friends I have because my best friend is God.  And It is a super friend.  People come and people go, but God’s love for you will remain the same.  Embrace it, cherish it, and spread it everywhere you go.  Let your light shine brightly for all the world to see.”                                     

Amaka Imani Nkosazana


Do you really want happiness?

Happiness – we say it’s what we want, yet, so often it seems unattainable. We believe our happiness is based on outside events and, therefore, feel we have no control over whether we are happy or not.

In his book, “The Untethered Soul”, Michael Singer says happiness is a choice and it is one in which we have the power within ourselves to attain if we truly want it.  He says, “Most people don’t dare give themselves that choice [to be happy] because they think it’s not under their control.”  We tend to say, “Of course I want to be happy, but all these terrible things are happening in my life.  If they weren’t happening, then I would be happy.” 

In choosing happiness, there are no if’s, ands, buts, or conditions.  We make a decision to be happy no matter what is happening.  It may be painful, so what?  Do you want to be happy?  In spite of the circumstance you have decided to be happy.  I know someone who fell off his bicycle at the age of 80 and was sure he broke his back on the way down because of the pain and crack he heard as he went down. He slowly got back on his bike and began singing, “Happy Days are here again” all the way home. No one would have guessed he was in pain.

Singer says, “The question is,very simply, ‘Do you want to be happy or not’?”  Period!  So happiness is really about choice. 

We can choose to be happy no matter what is happening or not happening in our life.  If we choose to be happy we do not let outside influences keep us from being happy.

That is easier said than done – unless we practice gratitude. When things “rob” us of our happiness, practicing gratitude – looking for what we are grateful for, rather than what we do not have – allows us to practice acceptance and with that acceptance – happiness.  Remember, the choice is ours and the more we practice making that choice, the further along in our spiritual development we become.

Quote of the Week

“People tend to burden themselves with so many choices. But, in the end, you can throw it all away and just make one basic, underlying decision: Do you want to be happy, or do you not want to be happy? It’s really that simple. Once you make that choice, your path through life becomes totally clear.” 

Michael Singer


Au revoir

Au revoir! 

We are leaving for Paris in less than a week!  I have been there once before – 29 years ago!  When I left I knew that one day I would return.

As the years went by it seemed like a distant dream – there was either not enough money, not enough time, inability to take the time off, or just a matter of priority – to see my grandkids or go on a different trip.

However, when we set our mind on something, the Universe will come through – although, it may take longer than we would like!  But when it happens – it happens in a big way!  A friend offered to pay for Christopher and my plane tickets to meet him in Paris.   Then another friend who has an apartment in Paris offered us the use of his apartment and it was available the week we were going to be in Paris.

So for the next two weeks I will be in Paris.  I still can’t believe it is happening.  Not only was a dream of mine fulfilled but it was done at minimal cost. It also has made me exceedingly grateful – grateful to God, grateful to have such wonderful and generous friends, and grateful that this time I get to experience it with Christopher, my husband of 27 years and a really good friend, John.

Life is good, God is amazing, and I am truly blessed!

Quote of the Week

“Each day I am thankful for nights that turned into mornings, friends that turned into family, dreams that turned into reality and likes that turned into love.”

Author Unknown